Insecurities plague most men. Many times, the only thing truly holding you back from being the best version of yourself is … yourself!
The good news is that it’s possible to overcome your insecurities and live the life you’re meant to live.
For some men, they’re able to accomplish this on their own. For other men, they might benefit from the support of a men’s life coach.
If you want to learn how to stop being insecure and take control of your life, you’ve come to the right place.
In this article, we’ll explore what causes your insecurities and the different habits you can start to develop more confidence.
Insecurities tend to develop over time and manifest themselves in several aspects of your life, from your job to your relationships. Several habits could increase your insecurities and lead to low self-esteem. A few of these habits include:
- Doubting yourself and your abilities
- Negative self talk
- Relationship suspicions
- Spending an excessive amount of time on social media
- Feeling like everyone is your competition
- Seeking praise from others
If these are the negative habits you practice regularly, you may find yourself falling into a cycle of insecure feelings and anxiety. Luckily, you can break this cycle by making just a few changes to how to see yourself and portray yourself to others. However, just as insecurities take time to form, they also take time, patience, and consistency to break through.
Let’s look at some ways to minimize being insecure.
It’s possible to overcome any insecurity you may have, but it doesn’t happen overnight. You first need to want to change and put in the work to start seeing your self-worth as a man and an individual.
To help you get started, here are some tips on stopping insecurity and developing the habits that will set you up for success.
Our first tip for stopping insecurity is simple: know your worth.
Overcoming your insecurities has nothing to do with changing how others perceive you. It all starts with how you see yourself. Understanding your worth will positively impact how you perceive yourself and will help you radiate confidence.
Daily affirmations are a great way to develop the habits and mindset that minimize your insecurities.
Insecure people tend to downplay their accomplishments, minimizing their worth. Make sure to accept credit when someone recognizes your accomplishments for what they are.
You shouldn’t have to rely on praise from others – that should be a bonus. Praise yourself, practice self-compassion, and understand that that’s enough. The number one person that you want to satisfy is yourself.
Another great way to stop being insecure is to find aspects of yourself that you can be confident in.
We all have different strengths and contribute to the world in different ways. Finding yours will ground you and help you find your place in the world. This also requires recognizing your accomplishments and meaning in what makes you unique in life.
Here are a few examples of strengths that you may lean into:
- Being a strong communicator
- Leadership skills
- Being adaptable to different situations
- Intellect and intelligence
There’s magic in your strengths — whatever they may be — and you should be proud of them. If you have a hard time recognizing your strengths, ask friends and family. If that doesn’t resonate, work with a coach.
Do you find that you put the needs of others before your needs? This could feed your insecurities and prevent you from fully recognizing your worth.
It’s great to be thoughtful of others and demonstrate excellent leadership skills. However, putting yourself first is a key part of overcoming your insecurities. You need to take the time to work on yourself and focus on what you want in life.
To do this, block out some time for yourself daily or weekly to do something you love. Whether that is working out, reading, cooking, or some other hobby, make sure to make time to spend on yourself.
If we could snap our fingers and have our insecurities gone in a flash, we’d all do that. Unfortunately, the world doesn’t work like that, and it takes time and patience to see a change in yourself.
If you find overcoming your insecurities is a slow process, you’re not alone. It’s important to be easy on yourself during this journey. Insecurities take a long time to build up, and knocking them down will not happen overnight.
As long as you maintain positive habits, you’ll find that, slowly and surely, your confidence will increase, and it becomes easier to let go of your insecurities.
The last key to minimizing your insecurities and maximizing your confidence is to make sure you surround yourself with the right people.
Unfortunately, not everyone is always in your corner, and there may be people in your daily life who are feeding your insecurities. As much as overcoming your insecurities mainly requires you to do the work within, that’s difficult to do when there’s a lot of outside noise.
Suppose you’re involved in a toxic relationship or dealing with emotional turmoil and relationship issues. In that case, it may be time to get rid of that toxic person and lean into those with a positive attitude. Look at those around you to determine whether they’re conducive to your journey towards developing better habits.
When you surround yourself with people who make you feel good, it reflects off you. These people could be your friends, family, colleagues, or anyone you feel comfortable with who allows you to be yourself and reassure you.
To recap, the top habits to develop that will help you minimize your insecurities are:
- Knowing your worth
- Focusing on your strengths
- Prioritizing your needs
- Practicing patience
- Keeping those who matter most close
At 1428 Transformations, we will help you overcome your sense of insecurity, find the value within yourself, and live your daily life to the fullest.
If you’re interested in learning more you can book your free introductory call on the 1428 Transformations website and start the conversation today!